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5 Sure-fire steps to Overcome Fear and Anxiety Today

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"You gain strength,courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to your self, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along,' You must do the things you think you can not do." Eleanor Roosevelt. 

Are you afraid of speaking in public?

Shy to talk to the next guy beside you?

Or even ask someone out for a date.
You know you want to do these things but you keep loosing courage due to fear of embarrassment or rather fear of what people may think.
 I have been there. And truth be told, it's a horrible place to be.

There's a great difference between avoiding realities, and running in the darkness of fear. Fear is false evidence appearing real. It's an additional believes we attach to our expectations and to reality as to why things will not work out.

Those who fear things forget that to attempt the feared thing most often (when it is the moral thing to do) is an end to fear, what a blessing to experience that which one so much dread. To encounter the feared thing is a blessing. And when this happens, when we finally meet with what we feared so much there will be nothing to be feared anymore. Always do the right thing and enjoy meeting with fear. Because courage and confidence begins in meeting with fear.

Doing it anyway
Is the key step towards overcoming fear.
 The technique below has worked so well for me in many ways, When I had a chance to meet and talk to people when I was younger, it was quite a cumbersome task but I still go ahead and do it anyway. As I learnt about this technique, I realised it was the same thing that has helped me all these years overcoming my fears,especially the fear of speaking and meeting new people.
 I may not be the most social person in the world but this technique has made me one of them. So when next you are tied to a hook from doing the things you deep-down know is right and most often things that will fulfil you then follow the following steps, they are simple but they work like magic.

Use the AWARE technique to Overcome Fear at any point.

A _Accept the fear/anxiety. So instead of trying to outsmart your emotions, by switching your mind to other thoughts or doing any other thing like trying to deny that you are afraid. Accept, accept that you are afraid. Accepting that you are afraid doesn't mean that you are submitting to the fear or the feared thing. But it do mean that you are submitting to your inner strength. And when you submit to the inner side of your being through acceptance,the brain which is most efficient when we are afraid will start giving you options to tackle the problem or the present fear. But at this point we have to be careful not to choose the wrong answer because when you accept that you are afraid the next thing your brain does is to trigger the fight and flight hormones which are natural tools for taking action in the time of danger. And making the wrong choice at this point could be very hazardous. So follow the next (A.W.R.E) step.

W Watch Your Fear. At this stage, if you are careful, not allowing the fear and flight urge to control you, you will see the 'devil in the detail ,'how this evil deals with you. It could come up as an image or a block of voice in your head. Hear it. See it. Feel it. But don't let it consume you. If you are really careful and the circumstance allows you to write, just note it down on a paper. Do you have more time, try to find out in your mind if it is really a true evidence.

A _Act Normally. Act as you would normally act had it been you were not afraid. What will you do if you knew it was impossible to fail. Imagine you had no limitations at all. That everything was just fine, how would you act? Assuming you were shy or overruled by anxiety before this step, and deep within you you know what a confident, bold and carefree person would do, do the same.

R _Repeat the above steps. While trying to 'act as if,' From experience, I notice that the same fear would naturally pop up again. Which will make you want to run into your skin like the initial time. All you need to do is to repeat the above steps, which is, accept the anxiety, watch the anxiety and then act normally. . Keeping doing this as often as the fear comes up.

E _Expect the best. So what else should you do when you acts normally, you expect the best. The truth about expectation is that whatever you expects or believes with confidence most often becomes your reality or self fulfilling prophecy. So expect to be successful. If you asking someone for a date, giving a speech or making a presentation, when you have followed the above steps just expect to be successful. Keep an eye for the best. Expect that people will always say yes when you ask them out. Expect claps when you are done with your speech and so on.
Fear can hold you back from achieving and attaining your life goes and can stand in the way of your happiness, health and wellbeing. By overcoming fear, you can be able to go after your goals, do the things you want to do and be the person you desires to be. Living without fear gives you freedom.

Making those life changing moves above has made a huge change to how I see things.
Have you experimented with any of the above steps before? I’d love your thoughts on building and having a mind that can control fear below. Or you can like my page at Facebook @Here now!
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